Christian attitudes toward divorce and remarriage have been largely redefined in the past century. Historically, Christians were never permitted to remarry with the church, even in the case of a lawful divorce, even if you were the innocent party. Divorced people were expected to remain celibate. More recently, however, many Protestant denominations have abandoned this position. Guest writer Darla Meeks is one person who swims against this current, having chosen celibacy following her divorce rather than getting remarried.
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Jessica, who is divorced, explained: It has not stopped Jessica from dating, although she has been honest from the outset about her sex ban and says the men she has seen have respected her decision. Speaking about ditching fellas for kissing her, she confessed: Currently single, Jessica recognised her weakness for co-dependent love matches — where someone has one-sided, dysfunctional relationships — after her year marriage broke down in May Hurt and needy after they grew apart, she fell into a relationship with a former friend, which she ended after six weeks — and made her celibacy vow just two days later on August 1,
There are an awful lot of people very quietly not having sex in our loudly sexualised society. Recent research suggests that one in 20 couples is celibate, though not necessarily by mutual choice; while about one per cent of the population is asexual — that is, not sexually attracted to anyone. Why, then, is not wanting sex still seen as the oddball option? At a time when teenagers face increasing peer pressure to lose their virginity and couples are expected to enjoy sex well into retirement — aided by the twin gods of Viagra and hormone replacement therapy — could celibacy and asexuality be the last sexual taboos? Why should they be mocked?
And with whom? My ex-husband and I had been high school sweethearts, married for fourteen years, and sex was never one of our problem areas. As you can imagine, when I divorced him, I had sex on my mind. I have long been a proponent of abstinence before marriage, but after my divorce I seriously questioned this long-held belief.