The fact that it's still a question and that people assume every date will be between a guy and a girl seems regressive as well. But we must be a pretty regressive society, because whether or not women should make the first move is still very much under debate. When I discussed this question with my friends as a teen, the idea that anyone can ask anyone out was not a given at all. Many of my friends believed that while girls can ask guys out, they shouldn't, because they should be "chased. By framing playing "hard-to-get" as a way of showing self-respect, these friends portrayed it as feminist. But to me, it's been anything but.
Make the First Move
Asking Guys Out Is The Only Way I've Gotten The Relationships I Wanted
If there's one thing most single women have in common, it's waiting. We wait guys to approach us. We wait for guys to text us. We wait for guys to ask us out. Even in the seemingly less complicated world of online dating, we're still waiting for guys to "wink" at us, message us, and basically, initiate any sort of human contact. It's exhausting! What would happen if we decided to stop waiting around and started making the first move?
Can A Girl Ask A Guy Out?
Chemistry doesn't happen online. So cut the small talk, emoticons, and get straight to the date. Sometimes actually a lot of times , that means making the first move. Guys assume pretty accurately that girls like to take it slow online. So most won't ask you out as soon as the thought crosses their minds.
Many people turn to online dating as an easy way to meet new people. While it may be a little nerve-wracking to flat-out ask a guy out, luckily the Internet provides a buffer. Keep the conversation going. People like to talk about themselves, and they like to feel that someone is interested in what they have to say.